Today, I want to discuss the subject of comparing yourself to others. Is it a good or bad thing? Why?
For myself, I find comparison to be both positive and negative. It’s great to compare yourself to others sometimes, as it can be the push you need to do and be better. If you feel someone else is doing better than you, it’s great to compare what you’re doing to what they’re doing as it can create healthy competition between you and the other person. It can be great motivation for you to create the best version of yourself you can!
On the other hand, comparison can be a largely negative aspect of human nature. It’s only natural to compare yourself to others, especially those you feel are a few steps ahead of you. You may be feeling great about progress until you see someone else is further ahead than you, which suddenly makes you feel inferior and not good enough. This is when comparison becomes ‘the thief of joy’.
My experience with comparison has been more negative than positive, simply because of my personality. If I see someone doing better than me, I can’t help but feel I am inferior to them and they are better than me at the particular subject at hand. The most recent example of this is my university results. I’ve finished 2nd year with a 2:2, which isn’t particularly bad, but I can’t help but feel ‘not good enough’ and like I’ve ‘failed’ due to comparing myself to those around me who have 2:1’s and above. This isn’t a healthy way of thinking.
Moreover, I frequently see people comparing themselves to others on a physical looks basis – for example seeing a beautiful girl on Instagram and wondering ‘why can’t I look like this?’ Unfortunately, this is when comparison can become your worst enemy. You are the only you on this planet – surely that’s something special in itself?
I don’t really know the point in this post.. I guess I just want to say that although it’s normal to compare yourselves to others and therefore push yourself to be the best version of yourself you can be, it’s important to remember to take a step back sometimes and acknowledge how far you have come. Who cares if someone else is further along than you? Everyone’s on a different journey, and that’s perfectly fine. That’s how it should be.
What do you think? Is comparison a good or bad thing? Let me know your perspective down in the comments!
Lots of love,