What it’s like to be an anxious extrovert

Hello lovelies!

So today I’ll be talking about the dilemma of being opinionated/outspoken as well as having anxiety (I have social anxiety, to be exact.) Understandably, this may sound a bit confusing – how can you be outspoken but have anxiety surrounding social situations and being the centre of attention? Well, hopefully this blog post will help make it more clear…

If you know me, you’ll know I’m one for posting my opinion on social media… a lot. What you may not know is I suffer with social anxiety. This means I second guess everything I say to people, I hate being the centre of attention, I – believe it or not – hate conflict, and I generally just want to stay hidden in the background out of everyone’s way.

As you could understand, this makes it a very daunting task when I’m itching to share my opinion on something I care about but don’t want it to cause conflict. BUT, I don’t let my anxiety get in the way of something I truly believe in… And you shouldn’t either!

Yeah, anxiety sucks. Yeah, it’s pretty debilitating. No, it does not have to take to over your life. Speak out about what you believe in, no matter what that is, and tell anxiety to go fuck itself! YOU are important and what YOU say matters, whether people agree with you or not.

Life becomes much easier when you accept not everyone is going to have the same opinions as you, and that’s okay. Not everyone is going to like you, and that’s okay. The most important thing is you like and respect yourself, as hard as that can be sometimes.

Allow yourself to be the passionate, empathetic, loving, kind person you are who cares so deeply about things. Don’t let anxiety prevent you from voicing your opinions – shout them from the rooftops!

Never, ever slim yourself down to please other people. You are important and you deserve to be heard – remember that.

Lots of love.

Soph. xx


8 thoughts on “What it’s like to be an anxious extrovert

  1. I totally relate to this! Sharing opinions on important stuff is so daunting to me too – I don’t like being the centre of attention either. However you’re so right – I definitely need to try harder to not let others stop me from being myself & sharing my own thoughts! Love this xxx


  2. I completely understand! I feel it’s more the other way round for me – I can’t help but share my opinions because I’m so mouthy (hahaha) but then afterwards I’m like ahhh why didn’t I just keep my mouth shut? But I need to remind myself it’s not wrong to share opinions and it’s ok for people to disagree with me!! Thanks gal xxx


  3. What about people who suffer from anxiety but don’t necessarily share the same opinions as you do. Would you welcome opinions calling for welfare cuts and increased privatisation with the same alacrity you would welcome opinions calling for increased taxation for the rich?


    1. I’d encourage everyone to express their opinions as everyone has a right to speak out. Everyone having different opinions is what makes the world a diverse and interesting place – just because I disagree doesn’t mean I think you shouldn’t voice your opinion.


    2. However, I think it’s important to note that welfare cuts can damage someone’s mental health alarmingly and a lot of people on welfare are there due to physical or mental health issues. That’s why I disagree.


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